Tuesday, October 27, 2015

A simple lesson



The harvest.
It was a chilly morning in New York one day this week, and a truly integrated cluster of homeless persons slept on a grate as it noisily vented warm air from Penn Station below. Rolled in roiling, tangled blankets, black and white and brown limbs intermingled, seeking warmth from the roaring vertical wind. Passersby rush on, each busily on a mission, with disapproving glances. 

Later, lunching at a well-known chain restaurant across the river in Hoboken, a small, hunched man with a wild white beard and simple knit hat and rumpled, soiled clothing, eats standing up. Looking like a creature from “The Hobbit,” he performs quick, obsessive, ritualistic manipulation of his food and drink, finally eviscerating the sandwich and devouring the filling. He is closely watched but outwardly ignored by other diners, cautiously watchful nearby. 

It is a matter of great, learned, debate, whether God exists, and if so, which one.

But it matters not. These people, the least among us, are equally imbued with human rights. Whether God-given or inherited from the Universe, these are fully human creatures, not less than any of us.

At the other end of the privilege spectrum are the highly educated, the trained, the cultured, the deep thinkers. And they care, deeply. And know that they can improve the lives of us all, if only we’d listen, and obey.

These are they who prescribe, command, compel. The new Ten Commandments. Thou shalt not live on the street. Thou shall not consume large sugary drinks. Thou shalt wear seat belts, and not smoke, and a thousand other things. 

Because they are educated and enlightened. Because the are concerned. And because they think themselves our betters.

But they are not.

This country was a grand experiment, splintered from the regencies and monarchies and religious shackles of mother Europe. It was founded on the principle that "all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the Pursuit of Happiness." Sound familiar?

So let us consider one early example of the power of individual freedom. It resonates yet today, though greatly muted.

In November of 1620, a group of Separatists left England on the Mayflower seeking religious freedom and economic opportunity. The first several years were extremely difficult, near famine, with poor crop yields and perilous scarcity.  Nathaniel Philbrick, author of “Mayflower,” takes up the tale:

“The fall of 1623 marked the end of Plymouth’s debilitating food shortages. For the last two planting seasons, the Pilgrims had grown crops communally – the approach first used at Jamestown and other English settlements. But as the disastrous harvest of the previous fall had shown, something drastic needed to be done.”

“In April, [William] Bradford had decided that each household should be assigned its own plot to cultivate, with the understanding that each family kept whatever it grew. The change in attitude was stunning. Families were now willing to work much harder than they had ever worked before. In previous years, the men had tended the fields while the women tended the children at home. ‘The women now went willingly into the field,’ Bradford wrote, ‘and took their little ones with them to set the corn.’ The Pilgrims had stumbled on the power of capitalism. Although the fortunes of the colony still teetered precariously in the years ahead, the inhabitants never again starved.”

A mystery. Or perhaps not – simply human nature. When treated as free persons, owners of their own labor and the fruits thereof, the Pilgrims prospered. And as they prospered individually, so did the colony.

A small, hoary example, perhaps, but timeless.

The lesson is simple. Our "betters" are so only in their imaginations and inflated egos. Let each choose their own path. Offer your advice if you must, but restrain the impulse to impose. As an equal, you do not have that right.

Tuesday, October 13, 2015

Savagery and civilization - a balancing act



A classic tale of savage young men.
In William Golding’s 1954 classic, Lord of the Flies, we witness the thin veneer of civilization peel away as a group of boys, marooned on an island, begins to run wild.  As empathy fades and self-interest reigns, survival of the fittest and conquest by the strongest begins to overcome all feelings of humanity. Their behavior quickly descends to brutality, torture, and murder.

Young human males, their bloodstreams coursing with hormones, are among the most dangerous creatures on the planet. Unsupervised, they tend to selfish, sociopathic behavior, forming gangs, striving for supremacy, quick to react violently to even imagined slights, subject to depression.

The most effective moderating force, the greatest civilizing influence on these young men has been found to be involved fathers. Not a surprise. Since time immemorial, the job of fathers has been to humanize their sons, to teach them to respect others, to sublimate violent tendencies, to become empathetic. It is not a simple task to overcome the strong brew of teenaged testosterone.

Why is this pertinent?

Because, as our progressive society evolves, it tends more to increase the number of single parent families, often with uninvolved fathers. We, as a society, have enabled this trend with programs and policies and benefits designed to support single parent families. And while the freedoms thus afforded are laudable, there is an unmistakable cost. The disturbed, depressed, violent young men who are the byproduct of absent fathers.

In a May, 2012 article in Psychology Today, Dr. Edward Kruk lists some characteristics of children of divorced fathers:
·         Diminished self-concept and compromised emotional and physical security
·         Behavioral problems, swaggering, bullying
·         Truancy and poor academic performance
·         Delinquency and crime
·         Promiscuity and teen pregnancy
·         Exploitation and abuse
·         Physical health problems
·         Mortality (children of divorced parents are more likely to die while children, and live four years less on average)
·         Mental health disorders

Please note that last item.

We have been repeatedly shocked by recent incidents of mass shootings (the media now have defined that down to two deaths). Yet many of the baby boom generation remember much higher prevalence and acceptance of guns in their youth. High school kids with high power deer rifles in the trunks of their cars, having come to school after an early morning hunt. Pickup trucks with rifles and shotguns hanging openly in cab window racks. Kids plinking with .22 rifles, shooting cans and bottles, but not each other.

Now we have Newtown, and Isla Vista, and Centennial, and Roseburg. And many others. What the heck has happened?

Our culture has changed.

One startling fact: a December, 2013 National Review article finds that nearly every school shooting “involved a young man whose parents divorced or never married in the first place.”

This cannot be an accident.

For further corroboration, simply correlate the proportion of married households versus murder rates in our inner cities. (Chicago had 3 killed and 25 wounded last weekend. President Obama did not console the families).

In addition to a yawning dearth of paternal influence, we also have a deep crisis in our mental health care system. A recent Wall Street Journal article paints a dire picture. From a high of 558,000 inpatient beds in 1955, we now have only 45,000 psychiatric beds nationwide. Militant patient rights movements, as well as a  reduction in both state and federal spending, are at fault.

We are reaping the whirlwinds of societal change which, while providing many benefits, has also loosed a plague of unintended consequences.

And millions of honest, upright, reliable gun owners in this country are rightly outraged that they are being blamed.

It is time, as Ann Landers so succinctly said, for us to wake up and smell the coffee.